I'm feelin reflective, so this is one of those blogs that is "freestyle" in nature...bear with me...those that Love me already do, so you might as well too! (smile)
When did it become so "in" to continually acknowledge our "haters"?
Have we come to that place in our culture where talking about the negative is more interesting than seeking out the positive? I was looking at a few statuses, pages, and tweets over the course of these last days, as a way to unwind, because admittedly I've been under a little pressure...to be real, sometimes I "look" to you all virtually, to get a little laugh, a little encouragement (hey some of you faithfully bring the WORD through your FB- much respect), or even just to peak my interest when I need to change my focus.
When the positivity and/or the comedy is flowing out there, it really does help me to "get back on my feet" or remember that it is GOD & Not Me who is in charge...but some days, I gotta tell ya, some of y'all make a sistah wanna throw in the towel with all the "FML's", cussin folks out, and shout-outs to the hataz"....not that you have ANY obligation to amuse or uplift me...thats not my point....but rather, I just keep wondering if all of "that" is helping YOU in anyway...or if it is just a cry out for help?
I read an article as I was preparing for a workshop that stressed to employers to stop putting all of their energy into the "bad" employee, instead focusing their efforts towards the empowering of the "good" worker...more acknowledgment of those that DO the work, and follow the rules, thinking that would bring about a better work environment, and coerce the lazy one to either shape up or ship out. In that same token, why can't we, as people focus on the ones who love us, support those who support us, and "speak life" in our daily conversations to create a better environment to live in?
I think we'd all feel better.
Even as I write that, I feel compelled to speak to the "haters" and their fans on a other issue, that I thnk needs to be addressed so that we truly move forward....You know another character type that simply baffles me is the one where EVERYthing can be turned into a conversation about YOU (Tupac wrote a song about you..."it's all about you"...LOL).
But seriously....how is it that I can be talking about the way they raise rice in China, and all of a sudden we're talking about how much you hate rice & your momma made you eat rice...and how wrong you were done (it always goes back to how YOU were done wrong)....or if we're not talking about YOU being wronged/disrespected/hated on, then we're talking about all YOU'VE done, or how gifted YOU are...have not you ever heard that the best compliments about YOU come from someplace other than YOUR own Mouth?
I think I'm putting this is open space because I actually want YOU to know that some of US would LOVE to give you your "just due" ----We want to congratualte, acknowledge, ect....but you never give anyone the chance to because your always doing it for us...its funny because I bet YOU think this Blog is about You...Don't you...don't you?! (HA!!)
Can I say something else? (Of course you can Valerie, its your blog!! HA!)
Don't be so quick to believe "He say/She say".
Haven't we all realized that some people thrive on the misfortune of others...or better yet..."they" truly enjoy creating havoc in the lives of others (Why yes Virginia they want to mess up your world. Why? Because they are usually miserable little people themselves who resent your happiness.) Before you say, "Val I thought you just said not to acknowledge them!!?", let me strengthen the thought...ITS NOT ABOUT THEM...ITS ABOUT YOU LISTENING TO THEM!! There....now let us move on. Listening to people who mean you no good is not good for your soul, your morale, or your confidence...The next time "they" come to you with some conversation, ask them this...
"IS WHAT YOU ARE ABOUT TO SAY TO ME GOING TO BUILD ME UP, OR MAKE ME SMILE?"...If they hesitate...STOP the conversation!! You can even tell em "If it ain't POSITIVE, I DON'T WANNA HEAR IT"....if you don't have the heart, tell em Mz. Val said so...have em call me...you know "I Ain't Neva Scurred" (Giggle)
Ultimately what I am saying to each of you is to STOP LETTING MERE HUMANS AFFECT YOUR FUENG SHEI!! BRING POSITIVIETY, AND ONLY ALLOW POSITIVITY INTO YOUR ZONE...
"Constructive critisim" is one thing, because it is SAID in LOVE, with PURPOSE to BUILD YOU UP, and is typically paired with a SOLUTION meant to MAKE YOU BETTER...
If you are one who BRINGS POSITIVITY....You Deserve To Grow in A nuturing environment, filled with people who find joy in seeing YOU Happy.
Allow Men to see your Good Work & Glorify your Father because they see what HE can do THROUGH you...don't be your own cheerleader...let others do that for you~
If you are one who helps others, you DESERVE a strong support system.
If you are one who LOVES HARD...LORD KNOWS YOU DESERVE One who Loves you back with EQUAL INTENSITY!
If you bring something to the table, so should everyone else who is in your zone...ya heard me?!
"Able To Love You, Because I Love Him...and He Loves Me"
Toodles Lovely Ones,
Mz.V
POSITIVE PEOPLE ATTRACT THE SAME...WHAT VIBE DO YOU SEND OUT?
IF U REMEMBER NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER THIS~
YOU SPEWING DRAMA? STAY THEE AWAY FROM V!! (hee hee)
THIS ONE IS ALL ABOUT YOU~
